Sometimes you know it’s coming; you may not always be ready. Other times it comes like a bolt out of the blue—POOF! You’re an executor. Sorrow, grief, overwhelming sadness take control—the bottom drops out, but there’s work to do. We often say that everyone walks away from the gravesite with a sadness, heaviness, loss. Executors […]
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Poof! You’re an Executor. That is to say, suddenly you’re the President and CEO of an estate. You are a fiduciary, which means you have a financial responsibility to the shareholders, excuse me – stakeholders, or rather, the heirs. A list of projects awaits your direction. You likely have subcontractors to vet and hire (Attorney,
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When you’re an out-of-state executor—living in a different city or state than where the estate is being settled—the task can seem even more daunting. However, with planning, communication, and the use of professional resources, you can manage the process efficiently and effectively, even from a distance. While a trip or two may be a necessity,
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It’s completely understandable when you’re struggling as an executor or personal representative. It’s a big FAT job. (Fiduciary And Time-consuming). And that’s just the tip of the iceberg. Look, it would be really easy to pontificate about how to be a great executor, how to manage all the tasks, the personalities, the sadness, the emotions,
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My grief is different. I was at the cemetery last week. It had been a while. My dad’s flag needed straightening. Mom’s grave needs some flowers, but I didn’t have any. The lichen on both stones will have to do for now. But the lichen gave me pause as it registered that the stones didn’t
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Estate mediation may offer an alternative to costly litigation, decreased inheritances, and loss of relationships. With Estate ADR (Alternate Dispute Resolution) a good neutral, or mediator, will allow all parties to speak their piece. By contrast, a trip, or trips to court can be expensive and leave all parties feeling powerless to affect the outcome.
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Executor Road – Out They Say! Dealing with the friends watching you dealing with it… Executor Road: The Pile of Stuff A well-meaning friend said innocuously, “Out!” after I noted I had been busy going through the contents of our family house: the boxes, papers, tchotchkes, etc. The stuff from the drawers, the darkest attic corners,
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The things my mother loved The things my mother loved were the hardest to go through. Certainly, they were the hardest to let go. My mother collected things. Nothing categorical, like records or Steiff Teddy Bears, or gold bullion (regrettably) but her own category, undefined. Things that made her happy. Inanimate, material things – things
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Probably the rawest, deepest darkest experience I’ve known was the loss of my mother. Losing my dad was similar but the loss of my mother was different, more complex. In addition to the loss of the person, there was the phenomenon that they were both gone, irretrievably and here I was, such as I am.
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Executor “duty” is often a one time only experience. Every estate is different, and Executorium’s mission is to present executors and estate administrators with resources, information and routes to answers within these unchartered waters.
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